The worst nightmare for a teacher is a disrespectful student. Whereas usually students never disrespect their mentor or tutor at any cost being bound by rules and punitive consequences. Today students are very intelligent and well aware of their duties and tasks related to their study and education. Today’s child is not a weak child, instead is well equipped with modern technology to help him/her in his/her studies and learning. Today students are well aware of small or big questions from their syllabus like LMS full form or ERP full form, if anyone ask details of such abbreviations then in a jiffy, they open their education app and find out all the details of LMS full form and ERP full form. But even after so many facilities to provide education and good things to learn, a child becomes disrespectful towards his or her teacher then the situation becomes very sensitive because punishment under which spanking or beating or insulting is no solution to such sensitive topics or situations. Such situations should be handled very delicately because this is a question of the child’s future and his whole life ahead. People usually think that being robust or violent as punishment towards a disrespectful child is going to make no issues but the reality is this kind of behaviour makes such disrespectful child stubborn and irritating who never comes under anybody’s control. So, how to respond to a disrespectful student is explained as below:
- Usually when anybody disrespect you then you resist and try to make your point against him/her but here as a tutor you have to represent the example of calmness and non-violence. Hence, being elder and wiser than the child you will have to get defeated and lose the battle of resistance against the child and let him/her vent his emotions and when the kid is done, offer him/her a glass of water. Now at this point your silence & politeness will make him/her regret his/her bad behaviour against you and when this storm of anger will over then definitely, he/she will apologize to you.
- A teacher should never disrespect the disrespectful behaviour personally, instead, he needs to understand that this behaviour comes from that inner self of the child which has nothing to do with the tutor, so the tutor should never take it personally. It is so because the teacher’s duty is to mend the mistakes and faults of children, not to get irritated and react accordingly.
- It is very common that at such a rude and insulting behaviour of any kid, any tutor can be furious in anger but at very such moment tutor has to do just opposite and stay calm because child also wants reaction according to which he or she can react again, don’t give him/her that chance and stay calm and reactionless. This is a silent method to make the child understand that his/her tantrums were useless because they grabbed no attention at all and they will leave behaving like this due to lack of attention.
- Tutor can also give a pause to the moment and if the child said something which he or she should not have and that was really unavoidable at that moment then the tutor can take a pause and simply without reacting can look into the eyes of the child without blinking. This method will leave the child in dilemma and confusion whether you are angry or not or what is going to happen next & for instance he or she will not do anything and later you can make him/her understand his/her fault.
- While having a scorching hot situation where you want to make the child understand the gravity of mischief or disrespect the child did but you don’t want to hurt the child then break this eye contact with child explained in above point and move away from there and put an end to this situation because other students will also learn a wrong lesson from this so your moving away and putting an end to this moment will make them understand also that your are hurt now they will never repeat such behaviour.
- After returning to the class having a walk of 10 minutes during which you can calm down and forget the sequence of what happened, come to the class and again start teaching like nothing had happened. Don’t make it personal and let the students understand that sometimes it is better to let go.